My first dating experience years ago with a black girl was a positive one. She was really cute with a penchant for wearing stiletto heels and a habit of flaky behavior that I found endearing. I remember the reactions we got walking down the street together holding hands. Most people let their glances linger a fraction of a second longer than they otherwise would have. In hindsight, I understood why this might’ve created some curiosity in people; a white man with a black woman is one of the rarer combos. Onlookers naturally want to figure out what’s bringing us two together, so they examine us for clues, maybe like matching shoes or to see if I was acting black or she was acting white.
I don’t give these things too much thought when I’m out with a girl of another race because I like to throw all my mental energy into enjoying the woman rather than overanalyzing the societal implications of our pairing.
But while we were dating some things did catch my attention. The black guys we passed on the sidewalk stared at us longer than other people did and made Hmm mm damn sounds which I can only describe as a mixture of disapproval and respect.
The black women we walked by, on the other hand, had a much stronger reaction. Curious and aroused, they eye loved me like I was the filet mignon of manmeat. I think I could have given every one of them an open invitation to join me and my date later in the evening for a night of 50 on 1 group sex that would have qualified for the Gold Edition Penthouse Forum.
I recall the sex pretty vividly because she was exotic new territory for me. I’ll admit I was intimidated when we started banging because I figured most of her experience was with black guys and their huge schlongs. She climbed on top and a wave of relief swept over me when I hit her cervical wall. I was big enough for her.
This next part I’m about to describe is a little racy, so those with small children may want to cover their kids’ eyes with their hands. After a while we barebacked raw dogged it (thanks, roosh) and the money shots were incredibly stimulating for me. I loved how aesthetically pleasing was the contrast between the white jizz and the black skin. Like modern art, the geometric arrangement and bold ejaculatory strokes set against the dark canvas of her smooth skin prompted me to admire my handiwork like I was pausing in front of a particularly abstruse painting in a museum to contemplate its majesty. Plus, it made finding the mess easier for cleanup.
We drifted apart quickly, but it was the age difference — or maybe my poor bump and grinding dancefloor skills – not the race difference, that was primarily responsible. Though in thinking about it, I wonder if we had stayed together the racial differences wouldn’t've intruded at some point. We didn’t date long enough for any “race issues” to potentially become a factor. Nevertheless, I have fond memories. Actually, I have fond memories from almost every girl I’ve let into my life.
Except the lawyers. *shudder*
Age difference? Was she that much older? How much? For marriage, age and race differences matter, but not for only a sex partner.
younger. significantly. she was not looking for any sort of relationship.
This next part I’m about to describe is a little racy, so those with small children may want to cover their kids’ eyes with their hands.
Heck, parents who let their small children read this blog, period, might well end up being prosecuted for Contributing to the Delinquency of a Minor.
Ha
I have witnessed your poor bump and grind dance skills and Roissy I’m sorry to say this but no woman would pass THAT dance gene on to their child.
My first thought, “wait Roissy dances?”
I prefer “raw dog.” The “bareback” term is used by the gay community.
You come off pretty beta in this post. Not a fan of the coarse hair at all.
lol you know whose $.02 I’m waiting for on this one…
Totally agree on that. Back in the early 90s I had a 6 month fling with a gorgeous sister… Danced with her at a work Christmas party… we really clicked… smart as hell Hampton U. graduate… incredible in bed in every way. But we got too many hostile looks on the road, in malls, etc., mainly from black males (but also from whites).
Then when my grandmother came for a visit and I introduced her to Sherry, she almost had a heart attack… later, she took me aside and asked, gravely: “But what about the children?”
I never judge a woman by the color of her skin.
I judge a woman by the size of her breasts.
Joe T,
“But what about the children”
They’ll have rythm
I’m waiting for the first poster to call everyone here racist. Doesn’t that happen any time a racial issue is brought up?
“They’ll have rythm”
They’ll allso be great spellers by the look of it.
Kinda killed my point with that typo. Edit feature plz.
In a relationship where I (a lawyer, for full disclosure) was clearly the more “melanin-challenged” party, I received extremely hostile treatment from women of his race, most notably when we went out to lunch/dinner. Also interestingly, this occurred far more inside the District city limits than it did when we went out in Virginia, where I lived, or Maryland, where he lived.
Suburbanites more sophisticated than city-dwellers? Fascinating.
“In a relationship where I (a lawyer, for full disclosure) was clearly the more “melanin-challenged” party, I received extremely hostile treatment from women of his race..”
Really??!!!! You mean black women resent white women who date the (small) pool of available successful black men? That really happens? Wow!!! I can’t believe this!!!
(sorry for the sarcasm. Actually when I used to just hang with a black girl in college, the brothers gave me shit. That’s the breaks. The world is filled with hatred. )
The fundamentals of game transcend ethnicity. Men will always desire beauty and women will always desire status.
I loved how aesthetically pleasing was the contrast between the white jizz and the black skin. Like modern art, the geometric arrangement and bold ejaculatory strokes set against the dark canvas of her smooth skin prompted me to admire my handiwork like I was pausing in front of a particularly abstruse painting in a museum to contemplate its majesty.
We finally know where Jackson Pollock found his inspiration.
i had a white male friend who dated black women almost exclusively…he eventually …admitted that he felt less pressure from them and felt like they expected “less” of him…as in less of his time, energy, money….no pressure to be exceedingly ambitious at the office… with the pressure off…he had more fun…
anyway…thats what he told me….
and oh yeah… the sex was awsome…
xoxo
Except the lawyers? Hey! I happen to be both a lawyer AND a fabulous woman and girlfriend. Just ask my boyfriend — your old lair pal “master” Steve. Thppbbt.
http://www.abovethelaw.com/2007/10/a_sexist_screed_against_female.php
I stumbled across your site for the first time, and the guy I work for came into my cube, looked at the computer screen and read the, “I loved how aesthetically pleasing was the contrast between the white jizz and the black skin” part out loud and was like WTF??? LOL!
suicide_blond – my experiences with black chicks match your friend’s. i’m curious… how would you describe your friend’s physique?
i’m not gaying out here, i just have a pet theory about this sort of thing.
r… for the record..i am pretty sure i disagree with both of you… but … perhaps…there was a self fulfilling prophecy aspect…. and he “perceived” less pressure…so there was less pressure…
he is a DEFINITIVE alapha male..incredibly sexy..but necessarily traditionally handsome… if that makes sense…
xoxo
“The black women we walked by, on the other hand, had a much stronger reaction. Curious and aroused, they eye loved me like I was the filet mignon of manmeat. ”
I’m a white guy who likes to date asian girls and I’ve noticed the same thing. If I walk by asian girls on the street and I’m with an asian girl I get the same look. Curious reaction. I guess they are wondering if their sister knows something they don’t?
“Actually when I used to just hang with a black girl in college, the brothers gave me shit. That’s the breaks. The world is filled with hatred.”
Its the same if an asian guy finds out that I like asian girls. 99% of them have a huge problem with this. It really pisses me off, because I could care less if they or any other race wants to date white girls. Also, I live in NYC so its not like there is some shortage of asian girls that I am “stealing” from them.
My husband is a fine-looking black man…..Black women HATE me. I get glared at all the time. And black on white or white on black, the race issues DO come up eventually….it’s all in how you handle them.
Wow. I thought my humorous racial comments and viewpoints were always in danger of being misconstrued. And I really want to believe you’re being a bit light-hearted with this nostalgic post, but you’re not, are you? As a black woman, thanks for fulfilling the stereotypes about how/ why white men date black women: it’s exotic; she’s probably used to really big black penises; a lot of other black women will find me attractive; and though the black men hate me for taking ‘one of their own’, they RESPECT me for pulling it off (???). Wow. Wow. Wow. Actually, those looks from the black men were probably more about, “There’s only one reason why he’s with her.”
However, I do understand what you’re talking about with the looks, the insecurities, etc., but the way you recount this tale… makes me think that somewhere in there, you subscribe to your grandmother’s viewpoints. But, hey, I know — you’re not racist; you love black women! And you’re best friend is black, right?
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I felt I had to clarify:
I’m serious when I say you’re not racist. That’s a fact. I’m just saying we’re all a bit prejudiced and accept certain stereotypes as facts (even though we publicly deny it). I speak about myself also when I say that, obviously. But seriously, how many black folks do you know WELL and CARE ABOUT? Like, that you would actually run back into a burning building for?
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That last line is pricelessly funny.
*makes note of raw-dog vs. bareback*
I think interracial attraction works best when you exceed their expectations of you. That’s true in general, but when the person is of another race, they’re going to assume you’re like the average person of your race. Let’s say you’re a White guy who can cut a little rug — a girl from a dancing race wouldn’t be surprised if the White guy sucked at dancing, but she would take notice of the White guy who can dance.
If we rate dancing ability from 1 – 10, a Black guy might have to be an 8 to get a Black girl’s attention, but a White guy might only have to be a 6.
If you’ve hit on foreign girls, here or abroad, you know what a difference it makes to speak their language, even a few sentences. They expect you to be just another clueless, stupid American — so when you show that you’re multilingual and smarter than they are, they take notice. Shit, it’s almost as if they start treating you more nicely just to apologize for their unfounded assumption (understandable as it may be).
“unfounded” isn’t the right word — just “mistaken”
People need to remember the MUCH higher rates of STD’s in black men and women compared to whites before dating them or sleeping with them. Since I’m not that attracted to Asian girls (though they can be somewhat attracted to me), it basically keeps me with shallow, spoiled white women. Oh well.
Represent! I’m black, and I’ve only been with white guys. Kind f for the same reasons that you’re metnioning, more aesthetically pleasing, etc. I like to see the contrast as well. Anyways, a lot of black women say that I’m a sellout, and a disgrace to their race for having a white boyfriend, but I don’t care what they think. As long as we respect each other, that’s what counts.
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I’m beginning to think that the lawyer is the motivation for this entire blog. funny how it’s the same for me.
“I’ll admit I was intimidated when we started banging because I figured most of her experience was with black guys and their huge schlongs.”
Every time I hear an alpha say something similar to intimidation I wonder, so its okay to feel the intimidation. Oh well.
Suicide_blonde: I have noticed black women dont expect much from other races. I dunno why really.
Question: I have not much been able to work it with women not looking for much in a relationship. It begins to look like I am taking advantage of it or playing to their expectation. How do u advice tp approach this?
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Dating black chicks is so beta.
are you a lawyer?
Roissy, don’t worry about the Lawyers.
If you’re wondering what kind of guy willingly goes for lawyers, wonder no more.
A History of Violence is one of the better movies I’ve seen recently.
Interracial sexual relationships should be avoided.
What happens to the people who are products of said relationship?
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haroldmaude:
As a black woman, thanks for fulfilling the stereotypes about how/ why white men date black women: it’s exotic;
you’re barking up the wrong tree if you think you can guilt me into some contrite backpedaling. homey don’t play that.
of course she was exotic at the time. she was my first. the first asian i had was also exotic. hell, the first time i kissed a girl was exotic.
if it’s the word that ties your panties in a knot, try substituting “novel”.
she’s probably used to really big black penises;
a fair assumption on my part as most people date within their race for the majority of their dating lives. luckily for me, i’m no slouch in the big penis department.
a lot of other black women will find me attractive;
based on my observations walking around with my date, other black women were eyeing me up flirtatiously in ways i don’t get from them when i’m by myself or with a white girl.
you ever think that maybe these stereotypes don’t materialize out of thin air? that maybe they have a grain of truth to them?
and though the black men hate me for taking ‘one of their own’, they RESPECT me for pulling it off (???). Wow. Wow. Wow.
i make women wow all the time.
Actually, those looks from the black men were probably more about, “There’s only one reason why he’s with her.”
yes.
i was with her because she was cute and fun to talk with.
But seriously, how many black folks do you know WELL and CARE ABOUT? Like, that you would actually run back into a burning building for?
there are very few people at all that i would run into a burning building for.
I am so late, but I am commenting anyway. The comments here have set back race relations for 60 years. Seriously the angry black women hate the white women. Black people are full of STDs. Black men hate white men who date IR. IR dating is for weak white men. Black women are disappointed at the small size of a white penis. Stereotypes abound!!!!!!!! I am waiting for comments on watermelon, fried chicken, welfare, the 8 kids out of wedlock with 8 different baby daddies, and Hottentot Venus references to black women’s asses. Lest not forget that black people have their own distinct language called ebonics.
I have a white man on a regular basis, have never even had sex with a black man, and I get really tired of white women staring me down in disbelief a white educated man with money could actually like a black woman, after all shouldn’t the ideal woman be a white woman? He liked me enough to marry me. How crazy!!!!!!! I also STD free, and I can tell you the product of my union will not create mutated sub humans. In matter of fact if you are concerned about my future offspring, you are about 400 years too late, that is about how long blacks and whites have been making offspring together in America, the only difference was back then they just called them black and made them slaves.
Also to all the white men out there, I will not show you my breasts, nor when I am out at a club or bar dance suggestively for your entertainment. Sorry I am not a prostitute, you $500 is not enough to risk STDs or my marriage, but thanks for the offer.
God, reading this blog made me throw up in my mouth a little. Seeing black women with a puerile little swine like you would make anyone think they had low standards.
Honestly who cares! On the big scale of things- is it really that important? You bloody yanks and ur race issues. Unless ur african girlfriend was pinched by some kkk nut just to get at u, or any other situation that doesnt directly affect u all- jus chill out and let people do what they want without crappin urself cos a black girl looks at an asian boy. Flippin heck some people.
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Roissy: A very interesting yet sickening account. You need to reread haroldmaude’s comments with care.
Actually roissy’s post is one of the healthiest and certainly most honest explorations of interracial sexin’ I’ve ever seen.
America needs more openness and honesty around race, not less. Take ownership of the issues, don’t let them own you.
Damn i wish roissy were gay.
BW DESERVE to have their HUMANITY, DIGNITY, and FEMININITY RESPECTED by ANY man of ANY race who CLAIMS to be attracted to them and wants to have a SERIOUS DATING and/or MARRIAGE relationship w/BW.
I’m DISGUSTED by the ANTI-BW PERVERTS like this Roissy character who think that BW should be impressed by their DISRESPECTFUL, DEMEANING, DEGRADING RACIST/ANTI-BW attitudes/actions.
BW should STRONGLY REJECT these ANTI-BW DEVIANTS and show them, in NO UNCERTAIN TERMS, that we will NOT TOLERATE this GARBAGE from ANY man.
shut up, nigger
siddity says,
I have a white man on a regular basis, have never even had sex with a black man, and I get really tired of white women staring me down in disbelief a white educated man with money could actually like a black woman, after all shouldn’t the ideal woman be a white woman? He liked me enough to marry me. How crazy!!!!!!! I also STD free, and I can tell you the product of my union will not create mutated sub humans. In matter of fact if you are concerned about my future offspring, you are about 400 years too late, that is about how long blacks and whites have been making offspring together in America, the only difference was back then they just called them black and made them slaves.
Also to all the white men out there, I will not show you my breasts, nor when I am out at a club or bar dance suggestively for your entertainment. Sorry I am not a prostitute, you $500 is not enough to risk STDs or my marriage, but thanks for the offer.
laromana says,
Siddity,
Thanks for setting the record straight, telling the TRUTH about BW, and helping to CHALLENGE/DESTROY the LIES, MYTHS, and STEREOTYPES that CONTINUE to be promoted by ANTI-BW RACIST/HATERS in America.
I recall the sex pretty vividly because she was exotic new territory for me.
No. She wawsn’t “territory”. She wasn’t a patch of land for you to conquer.
She was (and is) a human being. A person. With thoughts. With feelings. With a personality. With talents. With hopes. With opinions.
Her body is not territory for you to colonise. Her body is her body. A human body created by God and given to her in love. Nobody but God and her can claim to own that body. You can’t conquer it. It is not territory. It is hers. To share at will, or to not share iof she doesn’t want to.
You say this post is about loving. But this is not love. This is treating someone as a thing.
Is the problem that you believe that men are entitled to treat women as things?
Or that is it that you believe that white people are entitled to treat black people as things?
Or is it just that you don’t think about other people’s feelings?
I hope it’s the third one, but the way you stereotype black women suggests that it’s both the first and the second.
I never judge a woman by the color of her skin.
I judge a woman by the size of her breasts.
Your mother must be so proud.
I loved how aesthetically pleasing was the contrast between the white jizz and the black skin. Like modern art, the geometric arrangement and bold ejaculatory strokes set against the dark canvas of her smooth skin prompted me to admire my handiwork like I was pausing in front of a particularly abstruse painting in a museum to contemplate its majesty. Plus, it made finding the mess easier for cleanup.
WHAT is WRONG with you?
You treat women like objects, you’re racist and you think your semen is ART.
And have you even thought about how this woman feels, with you broadcasting personal stuff about her all over the web? Ok, so you don;t identify her. But still, you talk about her like she’s a trophy, not a person.
Ew. Ew. Ew.
Your attiitude disgusts me.
Ew. Ew. Ew.
laromana–
Ahem. I just have one question here….
At what point did the Medical Association change the transmission of STD’s to “STD’s are now passed through flashing your boobs and dancing suggestively”???
I would also like to know how you became privvy to these new criminal profiling techniques you speak of, in which they make prostitution arrests based on this particular faultless guideline:
“Alright, men! We are doing solicitation busts tonight!!! I want you to keep your eyes peeled for ANY woman who shows her tits or dances suggestively!! THIS is what we need to make our arrests!! Let’s move!”
Thanks for making the Sisters proud, there Madame.
*Wheeeeeeeeew. Well thank-fucking-God you cleared that up for all of us.*
Prostitution means payment for sex. Sex means the chance of STDs. Why is that so hard to understand? The passage does not force one to assume that Siditty thinks “showing breasts” = “prostitution”. You applied that reading to it and then used it to make her look stupid.
HAAAA hahahaha omg….(I never thought I’d actually have to type back in tears of laughter since women usually aren’t this funny…..)
I am NOT being sarcastic when I ask can someone PLEASE GOD TELL ME that I am not the only one who sees why this is so funny to me!
Abagond, when I said “I have just one question…” I wasn’t looking for an actual ANSWER. Especially not one that made the original comment 100x funnier in your description of what it meant. I’m not being a bitch, I just don’t see how you can fail to see what I see, too.
And for the record, I hardly think that showing your boobs for $500.00 would be what you call “prostitution”….I’d call it “a really fucking lucky day”.
Seriously, if prostitution entailed *flash your boobs, receive $500* there would be wayyyyyyy more women in THAT field!!
Imagine the turnover.
Lady Raine,
Now we ALL know you can DERAIL and play stupid at the same time. Have a nice life.
Yes, this Lady Laine is not the brightest woman is she?lol
Any man who is sexually confident and not afraid to find a various types of females sexy os A-OK in my book!
@Lady Laine, don’t fret. I’m sure you could get 500 to show your boobs…500 pennies that is….lmfao!
I’m glad I cam across this blog because it reaffirms my belief that all women especially Black women willing to date Non-Black men need to seriously vet the men they are interested in. Men like Roissy are closet faggots looking to score women to exorcise their gay demons.