Top Two Rules For Dating Younger Women
February 7, 2008 by roissy
The two critical rules for older guys dating girls under 25:
Rule #1: Don’t be needy
You should never be needy with any woman (exceptions made if she’s an over 30 divorcee with two kids and a Snickers bar figure) but it is especially important to refrain from showing even the slightest displays of neediness with the under 25 girls. A young woman is extra-sensitive to the subtle signals that a man gives off when he is a little too happy to be with her. If the guy she likes is significantly older, like ten years or more, she’ll be that much more on guard for beta bahavior. An older guy who is needy is a bigger loser than a younger guy who is needy, because the younger guy at least has the excuse of inexperience. Plus, the older guy has to learn how to handle the elevated risk of being labeled a “lech” or “pervy”.
Examples:
Texting
29 year old texts you. Wait 5 minutes before replying.
22 year old texts you. Wait 1 hour before replying, unless it’s a weekend night in which case don’t text back until the next day.
Calling
29 year old calls. Pick up on the third ring.
22 year old calls. Let it go to voicemail and return call minimum of 2 hours later.
Going to a bar together
Chat up one other girl in 29 year old’s presence. Any more than that and you will make her too insecure.
Leave 22 year old for 30 minute stretches of time to flirt with girls in different parts of the bar. If she sees three or more girls laughing along with you, bonus points. You are guaranteed sex that night.
Shit testing
If 29 year old tells you some random guy flirted with her today, show a hint of jealousy.
If 22 year old tells you some random guy flirted with her today, say you hoped she number closed him because she needs a shopping boyfriend.
Post-coital challenge
29 year old gazes at you lovingly and says “I think I’m falling for you.” You say “Me too.”
22 year old gazes at you lovingly and says “I think I’m falling for you.” You say “Thanks! Keep it coming. I’m a sucker for flattery.”
Communication breakdown
29 year old mysteriously stops contacting you. Wait four days before sending casual text asking her out on another date.
22 year old mysteriously stops contacting you. Do not attempt to contact her again. In two months you have a 50% chance of getting a text from her wanting to see you.
Rule #2: Don’t be insecure
Many older guys who like dating younger girls fall into the trap of fretting about the age difference. He makes the mistake of bringing the issue up before she has, or cracking awkward jokes about her youth. His age insecurity will lead him to lean on his money or job status as attraction ploys because he won’t believe that a cute younger girl could love him for his personality or strength of character.
The truth is that, contrary to the sugar daddy cultural message, money and a high status job are not required to attract younger women. They help, but what helps a lot more is tight game and a dominant, charming personality. If you are unfazed by the age difference, she will be too. Run the same game at 35, 45, and 55 that you would at 25.
Bear in mind that younger women (barring a few notable golddigger exceptions) are not as practical as older women. They are more whimsical, flirty, passionate, and romantic, and this means you will get more mileage having a youthful outlook, being recklessly spontaneous, maintaining a high level of energy, and focusing on the emotional connections, than you would tempting them with the allure of financial stability and security.
If you follow my advice above, you will have no trouble finding a girl much younger than you to fall in love with you.
So calculating! How can you possibly keep up with all these tests and rules? It sucks to be you, roissy! But then life is for whatever the hell you want to do with it. Have a good one and good luck.
Man I’m glad I read this, the middle school across from my apartment gets out at 2pm.
zing!!!! gotcha
Communicating
Use the word “lech” to a 29 year old, she thinks you are stuck with a vernacular from the 1980s.
Use the word “lech” to a 22 year old, she wonders what the hell this old dude means.
again, spot on.
the absolute worst is the petulant whining when they are attempting to be “cute”.
trying for cuteness should be avoided like chlamydia.
i recently overheard a college-aged girl use “lech” in a conversation with her friends about her older ex-BF.
the word must be making a comeback.
gold
trying for cuteness should be avoided like chlamydia.
Whaaa? Cuteness rocks!
roissy: “If you follow my advice above, you will have no trouble finding a girl much younger than you to fall in love with YOU.”
So all this is about getting a young woman to fall in love “WITH” you? So that means you must be planning on being there too, huh? As in WITH? I know of course, what you really mean. Just seduce her, fuck her a few times and she will think she’s “in love” with you. It’s a no brainer, isn’t it? Young women generally don’t know any better, in which case, you’ll have all the benefits of her thinking she’s ‘in love’ with you.
Everyone is playing the “you go first” game. Why should you be any different? You go first, put your heart, body, and soul on the line and then when it’s 100% safe, I’ll think about it. But don’t feel bad. 99% of people seem to feel the same way, hence the divorce rate, lack of marriage rate, lack of happiness rate, lack of couples rate, lack of love rate.
Here’s a nasty thought. If the woman who wrote “The Rules” for women were young and hot, you could get together and make each others lives a living hell.
“Here’s a nasty thought. If the woman who wrote “The Rules” for women were young and hot, you could get together and make each others lives a living hell.”
You are a genius Gadfly!!!!!!!!!!!!
First, the proper response for a man to any “I love you”-type statement is the same no matter your age: “I know.” Star Wars has a (justified) reputation for nerdiness, but that line is Pimp Supreme.
Second, why would you recommend that a man show jealousy — even if it is slight — when a 29-year-old says another man flirted with her? I don’t think that’s ever a good strategy. Getting aggressive if another guy hits on her in front of you is one thing — you’re showing your dominance and possessiveness, which isn’t the same — but showing jealousy always seems like a loser move.
Lastly, there has to be a better way to handle mysterious communications cutoff than just letting it go and hoping for the best. What about making her think that you were the one who broke off contact? Maybe a text saying, “I haven’t contacted you in a while because I had some doubts, but I’d like to give you another chance.” Thoughts?
Roissy -
Been reading your blog for awhile now but never felt the need to comment except now. I am 36 and currently juggling a “9″ who is 22 and an “8″ who is 24, two things they both look for…
Make sure they know you’re in charge. They have to have 100% confidence in you in the sense that what ever they do with you it will be an expperience they can not get from some dude close to there age. Your experience is there gain has to be there mindset.
Be really good in bed
Love the blog - keep up the good fight.
Love your use of the word “there” ATL.
Possibly the most useful blog post I have read all year! Dugg!
http://digg.com/educational/Top_Two_Rules_For_Dating_Younger_Women
If I went to a bar with a guy and he left me alone for 30 minutes at a time and then proceeded to play the room, he definitely wouldn’t be taking me home.
But then again, I’m just a 22 year old woman. What do I know?
There will always be errors made — I was hitting on an 18 y.o. recently, and not even 5 minutes into chatting her up, I let slip something about my age. She said, “Oh, well how old *are* you?” I couldn’t lie, and said 27… I never do this with them, but again, errors will be made.
We should start a list of good responses just in case they act shocked. I was thinking, “Hey! Show some respect for your elders” in a cocky voice with a noise-wrinkly smile. That way you point out that you’re not old old and get her to laugh, humor always being a good way to make her drop her guard. I’ve never tried this line, btw, but there must be some time-tested retorts out there…
I think a better rule is, not to just sound secure about the age diff, but don’t mention anything age-related until she’s into you. After that, her first impression has congealed and finding out that you’re a bit older than she thought will be like finding out you’re a serial killer — “Oh, really? Well, you’re still pretty hot and fun to be around, so what are a few dismembered bodies to me?”
Agree totally with most of this, especially not being the first to bring up the age issue. Younger girls try to get you to give out your age by constantly bringing up theirs. Resist the temptation to say, “Yeah, and I’m X”. I’ve found that if a girl is really interested, she will sleep with you without knowing minor details like your age.
Yes leaving an attractive 22 year old by herself in a bar while you flirt with other girls for 30 minutes is definitely NOT a good idea. She will either (A) Get pissed off an leave; or (B) Get pissed off and start flirting with other guys. You need to protect your turf- if your standards are as high as you maintain they are, you can pretty much guarentee that several other guys are going to swoop in and start hitting on her.
Of course, there is one case where you’re morally OK in lying about your age: if you’re younger than she is. Most guys reading this blog are past the point where older women appear hot, but if you’re 21 and she’s 24 or something — lie, bald-facedly.
I’ll never forget when I almost had an adventure with a Spanish bartender (imagine bartenders here, but hotter and less fake). She was looking only at me, came over and was very flirty, kept leaning in to whisper, kept reaching out to touch my hands and arms, no awkward breaks in the conversation… until she asked how old I was.
I truthfully said 23 (I was nearly 24). Turns out she’s a lot older than she looks — 28, and she said, “Ay pero eres muy joven eh?” — “Oh my, you’re pretty young, aren’t you?” She didn’t look a day over 21 (her rail-thin, 5′0 figure didn’t help me figure out her age).
Always get her age first. As a bonus, if you can tell she’s 19 but lies and says 23 in your presence, she’s trying to lie upward in order to not freak you out about her being too young. That’s a good signal that she likes older guys.
Normally I am pretty much in agreement with most of what you say Roissy, but here I have to… well not necessarily disagree with your conclusions, but disagree with the premises. The thing is, I rarely date girls my age or older and I find that younger ones are the opposite of what you say. I rarely have to worry about them leaving me for some pop collared Georgetown douchebag, in fact it’s quite the opposite. They usually stick to me like the scent of a good stripper’s perfume. I can’t seem to shake it.
Maybe it’s just my stunning good looks or absolutely fucking phenomenal personality, but I find they just fall in love harder than most.
No, but in reality I think that they are so caught up that an older, more intelligent, sophisticated and worldly male would take any interest in them that they fall harder than older women. They are used to some limp prick fratboy drooling keystone light on their breasts and I guess the fact that I have read a book or two and are perhaps involved in something deeper than an x-box, makes them down right batty.
They have often told me that they could never go back to one of those simpleton goobers after me (which I attribute to my age and perceived maturity).
Or is it that your term of Alpha doesn’t even begin to describe me on my worst day???
oh and before some grammer prick points it out (which is usually me) I’ll point it out…
“I guess the fact that I have read a book or two and are perhaps”
are should be am…
If this was any more accurate it would have to be be in a leather bound volume.
9 moi? Thank you. You must not be from around here.
10 Reggie: “Second, why would you recommend that a man show jealousy — even if it is slight — when a 29-year-old says another man flirted with her?”
Please allow me. Never, ever show jealousy. It’s very bad form, unless done completely in jest. But then many a truth is spoken in jest, so make sure you’re jesting or she will rightly see you as needy and insecure. If she finds jealousy somehow endearing or ‘proof’ of your feelings, she is woefully ignorant. But then it doesn’t sound like you consider intelligence a valuable trait. Just make sure she doesn’t get pregnant.
18 agnostic:
“if you can tell she’s 19 but lies and says 23 in your presence, she’s trying to lie upward in order to not freak you out about her being too young. That’s a good signal that she likes older guys.”
It’s actually a good sign she will lie about….um…just about anything. But then truthfulness may not be considered a desirable trait. Lying could be a point of compatibility.
19 replacement brain:
“I rarely have to worry about them leaving me.”
It’s not you who is so great. At least not judging by your comments here. It’s more your dick and their hormones and natural desire to procreate with a provider and protector. You seem to fit the bill, but apparently do not. Many young girls make this mistake. Over and over and over and over….so I’m sure you won’t run of them any time soon.
10 Reggie “I haven’t contacted you in a while because I had some doubts, but I’d like to give you another chance.” Thoughts?”
Yes, bullshit begets more bullshit, but if that’s what you’re into, go for it.
“call me daddy”
if some one asks your age say “in dog years or human years ?” alternatively “i was raised by wolves”
“How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you were?”
if you’re 22 and she’s 23, should you lie?
““Hey! Show some respect for your elders” in a cocky voice with a noise-wrinkly smile. That way you point out that you’re not old old and get her to laugh…”
The great thing about this line is that you also make her think she isn’t good enough for you. Although Roissy warned against it, saying ‘you’re too young for me’ can be effective if you do it right - it qualifies her, and she will do more to get your attention etc, saying ‘no I’m not, I’m mature for my age etc’ Then she’s putty in your hands.
If an older man is single, there’s probably a reason why. In which case, a much younger girl shouldn’t be seeing him.
Just a thought here, but age and maturity are often correlated (I’m a 30 year old guy, and I admit to frequently enjoying being an exception). For a woman, maturity comes with experience dealing with “games;” and a higher likelihood to not respond well to “strategies.” As one ages, one learns a lower tolerance for being toyed with. Varying tactics should probably focus on relative maturity level more than absolute age.
Are there good ways to compare relative maturity between the sexes? Different genders obviously mature along different paths.
How does dating / playing the game / being played by the game accelerate or decelerate the maturation process?
And should we take a step back and analyze the correlation between maturity and various methods/places to meet members of the opposite sex (i.e. from a maturity perspective is there any difference between meeting someone at a bar vs. at Whole Foods)?
Second, why would you recommend that a man show jealousy — even if it is slight — when a 29-year-old says another man flirted with her?
small doses of calculated jealousy can be your best friend.
say didn’t I see you in “Shopgirl” ?
27 cuchulainn
“The great thing about this line is that you also make her think she isn’t good enough for you.”
AWESOME!!! So you want her to think she’s not good enough for you? Yeah, then SHE has to ’step up to the plate’. In other words, play the masculine role. Only an insecure boob would think that was a worthwhile goal. Another recipe for misery, cuz let’s face it. You’re no better. You just proved it to ME anyway! Do you really think you’re going to fool anyone?
There are ways to ACTUALLY improve your self image, but attempting to make others feel ‘less than’ is idiotic. More games, more subterfuge, more stupid bullshit that anyone with half a brain can see through. Yes, I know it’s all in good fun, for a worthwhile goal. Your getting laid, right? Good luck. 
29 DPA
“How does dating / playing the game / being played by the game accelerate or decelerate the maturation process?”
Well, it’s a fabulous question to ask, but this is not rocket science, is it? Good grief.
30 roissy
“small doses of calculated jealousy can be your best friend.”
Sorry, roissy, but you are a first class idiot.
And if this kind of thinking gets you laid 3 times a day, you’re still an idiot. Just one who fucks frequently. 
Am enjoying this post quite a lot. Thank you.
^ Sorry again, roissy. This is your post and I’m slamming you. Not nice, I realize. Please accept my apology.
I know you mean well in your advice, and I too, but can be a bit too sarcastic.
Roissy, I don’t know that any of this is likely to work on shy younger women. You have to make some allowances for personality when plotting out your strategy, or “game” as you call it.
When I was in my early 20s and “older” men (over 30s) took an interest in me, it simply scared and repulsed me, not because the men were repulsive but because I thought that they must have really perverse taste to be interested in the very immature person I knew I was. At 23, I was scared out of my wits when a man of 38 at my office asked me out to lunch.
If the man were only slightly older, like say 26 when I was 21, I felt flattered but I was still a little frightened.
The kind of treatment you describe would have turned me into a zombie, so uncertain of what the man wanted from me that I would have been unable to respond in any way at all.
All-encompassing strategies are no substitute for learning something about the person you are trying to attract. Oh, and a really sure-of-herself, beautiful young woman who has always attracted whatever man she wanted, would see through this kind of behaviour in a minute, too.
I suppose you might stand a chance with the in-betweens, though - the ones who are neither extremely shy nor extremely sure of themselves.
Sigh. So many of your recommendations for the pursuit of women sound like a recipe for unhappiness for both parties involved, even (or especially), when they’re successful.
^ Thank you alias. I agree 100%
Haha actually Gadfly I have lived her my entire life. =)
Clio — I think the advice here is based on the premise that the girl will actually be interested in a noticeably older guy in the first place. If she isn’t, then his behavior won’t change that. Those who are interested probably have a more wild-child try-anything-once personality, and they don’t get put off by what Roissy’s prescribing.
I find it wierd, Roissy, that you didn’t talk about how much easier it is to unsettle a woman/girl (still don’t feel grown up and call myself girl) when she’s young. I talked to this boy(man?) the other day and I felt so gamed, vacillating between whether he was manipulating me or not. He talked about how he interacted with women and implied *but did not actually say* that I was different, liked the drama, casually referred to his wealth when it was relevant and I ended up both calling him a ‘bastard’ and being attracted. The way he talked had me labelling him 25, which was way too old.
But then he switched tacks, said how although he had skills with girls, he didn’t use it to get laid. He went all soft on me, and I was both relieved and slightly disappointed (its nice to feel attractive) to realise all he wanted to be was friends to chat to.
It feels like wasted potential, like he could be an alpha if he bothered, but he didn’t have that kind of confidence.
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I usually like at least slightly older guys because I find the boys around me idiots.
I don’t think women necessarily limit themselves by age. It’s the looks and personality that come from that age. If he acts old, makes you feel young and one feels like there’s no common ground, fair enough! (unless you’re into age play…
I think the amount of girls that’re interested in older guys (teachers, ’seniors’, guys who have actual jobs and aren’t alcoholics) outweigh those who aren’t. It’s fairly natural to go for a guy who looks to be more in control of himself, and I think an older guy tends to look more attractive in simple contrast.
To be honest, older men need to take advantage of this…! I find it hilarious how many missed oppurtunities the average man accumulates.
“Ava V
If an older man is single, there’s probably a reason why. In which case, a much younger girl shouldn’t be seeing him.”
That smacks of a generalisation against older men in general. There aren’t that many awesome women floating around, and women in his age group may be a bit too controlling of their own lives to settle well with him at that point. Lots of advantages to the younger/older relationship; each one gets something out of it.
If a girl is a silly bint at that point in time, though, she won’t be able to handle any man. Doesn’t matter how old he is. She shouldn’t be seeing ANYONE.
Er, as in, I was off the mark. He was younger than 25.
I love this advice: “Don’t be needy. Don’t be insecure”.
Then you go on to tell the guys here how to appear confident and secure. That’s exactly what “The Rules” say to women. Basically that they know the reader must be needy and insecure, else they would not pick up such an idiotic book. So then it goes on to describe exactly the scenarios you describe here. Amazing! Dating Hell revisited. No wonder people find it such a nightmare.
moi: Your entire life? Oh, I’m sorry.
If the guy she likes is significantly older, like ten years or more, she’ll be that much more on guard for beta bahavior.
It feels like wasted potential, like he could be an alpha if he bothered, but he didn’t have that kind of confidence.
Within these words lie a new kind of black and white. The terms alpha and beta are overly simplistic. But people like to put shit in neat categories — another primal trait.
It’s impossible for someone to be top dog and strong and in control all the time, or to be subservient and obedient and controlled all the time. Everyone has vulnerabilities, needs and limits.
The world has more than two colors. When two people truly love each other, they are both “beta” and “alpha” at the same time, and many, many shades of complications in between.
“Post-coital challenge
29 year old gazes at you lovingly and says “I think I’m falling for you.” You say “Me too.” (We all know you’re falling for yourself, roissy. :))
You say “Either you are or you’re not. Which is it?” Put her on edge. Let her know you don’t trust anything she tells you. This will make her desperate to qualify.
22 year old gazes at you lovingly and says “I think I’m falling for you.” You say “Thanks! Keep it coming. I’m a sucker for flattery.”
You say “I think I hear your mother calling.” If she’s desperate and really attached, she’ll cling to you even harder. The longer you’ve been fucking her the better this works. You’ll have her eating out of your crotch.
C.M. He was younger than 25? How is he an older guy then? Are you in high school? lol
My guy friend who is 42 has no problem at all with women. Young or old he can get laid at the drop of a hat. And this is what’s so funny. He’s got tatoos all over, a mowhawk, is a bit overweight around the middle, wears an earring, tank tops, sandals, and shorts. He does clean up well though if he needs to.
He asks women he’s interested in, “Do you want a Big Mac or should we just go for it”? He has more takers than you can imagine. He refuses to play games and tells them flat out what he’s interested in–SEX.
He baffles them, not with bullshit, but with raw unfiltered honesty. I showed him your site, and he thinks it’s completely GAY. He thinks it’s way too much effort to have to remember all of this bull. Even when he was in marriage counseling with his ex-wife, the marriage counselor hit on him!! I know for a fact he’s telling the truth, because we work together and I’ve seen him in action.
I dare you to try it, if you have the balls!! This guy is an alpha. Strong, honest, and highly sexual.
lol that guy sounds like a total douchebag.
^ You wish.
Mohawk, tank top, and tattoos, at 42? yeah, that might be cool in Wyoming or something. not where people actually live though.
Er, 18. I’m at university.
28 y.o. i am seeing a 22 y.o. She is a L.A. 9 I never answer when she calls. I might be out with the guys, watching sports center for the 8th time, at the gym, at work, X360, whatever. I NEVER ANSWER. I text her when I want to see her, see complies. She complies because that is the only way she can see me. 7 flawless months, and she has no idea I am seeing my assistants sister.
C.M.
same holds true for older women. it’s a red flag. and yes it is a generalization.
Im 21 and only date older men….and…If I went to a bar with any man and he left me for a half hour and I noticed he was over flirting with other chicks….Id be outta that bar soooo fast! lol That’s horrible advice !
Im 18 & I loooove older men my age limit iz 25-45
I think you may be right in the stereotypical sense. But as someone under 25, I don’t think what you said would be typical of me (or most other girls I know). Rule 1 is especially iffy:
I like prompt responses to texts. As someone with less money to blow than an older woman, I value when people text me back! I also like knowing that the other person (a) saw my message and (b) cared enough to respond like it mattered.
Whether you call me back or actually pick up the phone doesn’t affect me. What changes things is if I get the feeling that there is a practiced pattern to your phone habits — anything contrived will be seen as manipulative unless it demonstrates your devotion.
You are more likely to be guaranteed further sexual contact with a woman if she’s older, not younger. Period. It’s the notion that when you’re old(er), you can do whatever the hell you want. But if you’re 20, you’re still influenced by the feeling that you have other options if the current guy doesn’t appreciate you.
You want to be careful with the L word. We might seem really impulsive (and we can be), but younger girls don’t randomly tell anyone we Love them. Most of us haven’t been married or know many married people other than our parents. We think Love is a big deal and say it like we mean it. I guess you could say “the first cut is the deepest.” I think if I’m still alone when I’m 29 (okay maybe mid 30’s), I will feel the need to find Love really soon. I might even fling it around to feel closer to you or make you feel closer to me.
I am actually busy a lot. Maybe abnormally so for someone my age. When I stop calling, it might seem like I’ve dropped off the face of the Earth but it’s nice when someone calls me anyway. I’m glad that they remember me even though I didn’t remind them. That’s pretty universal to the point I feel happier even when my roommate used to call me when I wasn’t around for several days. She thought I died!
#2 is borderline correct, but not really:
If you’re lucky, you will find someone you want who wants YOU back. And not because of your manipulative charms. If there is a significant age gap, it would be good to know you care enough to bring it up, putting your position on the line. Courage and compassion beat macho attitudes any day. There’s a certain kind of security of self that’s attractive in anyone but don’t be aloof too much or it might not last. Just don’t be a pansy and wear those pepto-bismol coloured polos. And do not pop your collar.
I know this is an insanely long comment. But I needed a break from finals studying. Good blog
paperdreamer, you’re not supposed to write a COMMENT that is longer than the actual article you’re referring to
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Im a 20 year old girl and I agree with JK the 22 year old girl. If any guy treated me like that I would leave him, especially if its an older guy that gives me more reason to leave him. I once dated a very handsome 30 year old he was really hot but obviously I would not have dated him if he was not as nice as he was in his personality(but I wasnt dating him for a long term relationshipor anything it was just for fun, and I enjoyed his unique company. However I told four of my close freinds about him, while all of them acknowledged that he was quite goodlooking, 3 of them looked at me like I was extremely weird to like a man so old, and so I did not tell anyone else. And also I know it sounds really really horrible I did not like to be seen in public with him, the looks we got just made me uncomfortable and also I definately did not want fit young guys my age seeing me with him,although he was an absolutely lovely person.Like I remember this one time I was out with him in this area where one of my classmates/lecture mates worked that I had a crush on and I was just praying that he does not see me with him, and he didnt. Alot of you are saying that older men are much more wiser and generally better than younger men, however id have to disagree you do get many boys my age who in their mindset are very mature intellectual articulate charming etc. However most younger girls would go out with an older who is big in the downstairs department(if you get what Im saying) so consider yourself lucky, otherwise she will not neccessarily be attracted to you unles you are unbelievably good looking and is unlikely to brag about you to her friends or want to be seen with an older guy. Any way how old are you guys im feeling a bit left out being on this blog now
katie london xxx
Oh well at least Lemmonex jk and paperdreamer are young
If any guy treated me like that I would leave him
never listen to what a girl says. watch what she does.
I did not like to be seen in public with him
katie, it sounds like you just didn’t like this 30yo guy very much, despite his good looks. if you had liked him with your heart you wouldn’t have felt the way you did about being seen in public with him. trust me on this, as i have been dating younger women for years — if the younger girl loves the older guy nothing else matters. her friends will see that she loves him and will accept him and support her, and other guys will give your BF respect because they will be able to see how much you are into him.
so it’s not the age thing that was the problem in your case, it was the love thing. you had your heart set on a classmate instead.
remember, a man’s looks are not what makes a girl fall in love. good looks only get him the audition.
although he was an absolutely lovely person
“lovely person”. this is a dead giveaway that you did not feel sexually attracted to your 30 yo man because of his personality. telling a guy he is a lovely person is the same as telling him “let’s just be friends”.
However most younger girls would go out with an older who is big in the downstairs department
that is completely false. you sound like you’re making this up as you go along to try to prove a mistaken point. how the fuck would she know what his junk is like before she has banged him?
Any way how old are you guys im feeling a bit left out being on this blog now
you just need a little of the ol’ roissy loving, deep and strong, filling you up until you shudder with pleasure, and you won’t feel left out anymore.
Katie, I am 7 years older than you…practically washed up. And you need new friends.
still im sure your younger than these men, lol
to roissy I am currently dating a 21 yo hes just 4 months older than me so he turns 21 before I do, it is that guy who I was hoping not to see when out with the older guy but the reason was not because I fancied him believe me I fancy all the nice guys really and cannot make my mind up about which one is aesthtically more pleasing either, it was just that if I saw anyone from university, word might get out that I was seeing an older man and may tarnish my reputation or what the other guys and even girls thought of me, trust me even if the girl is seeing an older guy it is not a good idea to let the others know about it. It was just that this guy worked in the area so there was more of a chance that Id bump into him, and what he thought of me mattered to me becuse he is hot. There are practical reasons why a girl will not ‘’settle down” and have a life long relationship with a guy much older than her for example sperm count begins to deplete as a man ages, as well as other obvious problems also he might die early and leave all the responsibility of bringing up children on the woman
After scanning Katie’s posts, I’m 100% sure she’s female. The male mind doesn’t tolerate such jumbled nonsense, confusion, and self-deception. Posts like those serve only to prove that the gist of roissy’s article is correct; but such confirmation is superfluous.
I wonder if an “*” could be placed next to all posts by authenticated females? It could serve as a much needed forewarning.
Are you people kidding me? One chick says she is “washed up” at 27 and the article is acting like 29 is what?? OLD? I just turned 28 and I pretty much feel like I went from a naive girl to a woman in the past couple years and feel more beautiful than I ever have. Why all the games? If a man in his late 30’s or older approaches me I am simply not interested if they try any of these ridiculous tricks stated above. Are women seriously considered washed up at 30 lol …what a joke!
whatever